Reflecting on my own strange year at Uber

Now that we've made GLP-1s for weight loss we need some kind of new injection to boost male self-awareness to avoid situations like this from happening in the future.

> She became dismissive in code reviews and curt over Slack DMs.

> I filed a complaint through Uber’s internal HR portal.

> I was instructed to delete her contact and the text messages between me and her from my phone. I complied, as I was scared to lose my job.

To paraphrase the next quote, since it's too long to paste out in full, OP then seems to invent a disability called "getting sad about this" ("depressive symptoms") and complains about the long commute he brought upon himself by complaining to HR.

Then OP cpmtomies tp aggro HR for some reason, invoking the company-affiliated fake tele-therapy contractor instead of bringing their own doctor's note about their physical disability to document a disability.

Finally, OP is fired and manages to win unemployment benefits but then goes as far as considering a lawsuit. LOL. For what? Welcome to America, it's at-will employment. You have already received the best possible outcome, you received unemployment benefits, especially since the company and this coworker didn't actually directly do anything to you.

So let me summarize what actually happened because OP literally isn't perceiving reality:

1. He was asked out on a date, the coworker who asked had immediate regrets (judging by this piece that sentiment seemed justified)

2. He misread some text-based Slack/PR communication as brief and dismissive

3. He escalated like the Cleveland Police escalated with Tamir Rice and went straight to HR

4. This has now annoyed and weirded out the coworker even more that she's now dealing with HR for no discernible reason

5. The coworker understands way better than OP how corporate HR works and has witnessed the obliviousness of OP first-hand on the date, and easily gets OP fired because OP constantly puts a target on his back.

Look, sometimes in life we just have to take an L even when it's not technically "fair." Hopefully OP takes the right lesson from this, but I'm afraid they haven't. At the end of the day it seems a lot like OP still considers themselves the victim here.

From the coworker's perspective: she asked a seemingly nice guy on a date, it ended up being super weird, then he opened an HR case when she basically did nothing wrong (if she did, he would have said what it was in the article, right?).

Put yourself in her shoes: some random person at your company is threatening your job with an HR complaint over nothing. I'd do exactly what she did: it's either you or me, kid.

If the story is as presented, that's a shame and I'm sorry that happened to you.

That said, it's really a story of doing the wrong thing at nearly every turn. Why date someone on your team, you admit you knew better.

HR is not your friend or there to help you, they are there to protect the company from litigation. A coworker being short is not going to raise any flags. Her claims of harassment, in a company known for it, absolutely is - regardless of whether it's actually true or not.